Sexual sin (A man's battle field)

First off I want to start off by asking every sister to please begin to pray for the brotheren, for many among us are battling with sexual sin.  Many men hide in their sin cave's because they don't believe they can over come it. Who can they talk to about it??? Most times they can't not speak to their own wives because she may not understand what he is dealing with or battling.  Often times he can not speak to another brother in Christ out of fear or judgement.  Yet the world stand there with open arms to encourage him and support him and tell him that its not his fault but his wife's fault..  Recently when I was the VA I was listening to a worker there who was gay speaking about an Craigslist ad that his friend had post. It said I will do that thing your girlfriend or wife don't like to do.  I thought how sad, but true the world wants to destroy marriages.  Brothers, yes God programed us to like sex, but if your married it supposing to be with your wife, let your desire be for her only.  Its time we started to take back our authority as son of God.  bind up the devil and step out of our sin cave.  Sister's please do not judge your husband if he comes to you to share his fallen nation, listen and try to understand, but let him know that God forgives and heals but he must give it to the Lord, for his battle is a daily struggle with the media Television and magazines  billboards all promoting sex because "sex sells".

Sexual impurity is running rampant in churches because we've ignored the costly work of obedience of God's standards.  Our only hope is  obedience to the word of God. we can not serve our flesh and God also

Romans 1: 

²⁸ And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not fitting; ²⁹ being filled with all unrighteousness, sexual immorality, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, evil-mindedness; they are whisperers.

I don't know about any other man, but I have had and still do battle against
sexual sin. 

From the television to the Internet, print media to videos, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations…but, thankfully, not impossible to rise above them. Shattering the perception that men are unable to control their thought lives and roving eyes.  The lie that enemy tells me is that God made us this way, sexual desire was made for a husband and wife, not as the world tells us that we do it because it feels good.  Here is a book I encourage brothers and sisters to read

Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time 

                      Male sexual purity is not only critical to sexual oneness, it is an essential component of spiritual and emotional wholeness. Husbands who desire to achieve true intimacy in marriage will appreciate Every Man’s Battle, which provides a practical, detailed plan for pursuing sexual integrity, one of the crucial elements in winning the heart of a woman.

Includes a special section for women, designed to help them understand and support the men they love.

Lust Sexual immorality Homosexuality

Their hearts were darkened They became foolsGod gave them up to uncleanness in the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves God gave them up to their vile passions (homosexuality) They burned in lust for one another and committed shameful acts God gave them over to a depraved mind They were filled with evil

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Recommended by Focus on the Family

Note from author Fred Stoeker

Every Man’s Battle is for both men and women. As a man, have you ever said in frustration, “I just can’t get free of this sexual sin! Since I’m a man, I guess I’m just doomed to live this way.” Or, if a woman, have you ever asked, “Why is it that my husband seems to think about sex so much more than I do?” Or, “If sex is so natural, why is it that I’ve been married 15 years and still have no real sexual intimacy with my husband?”

Steven Arterburn and I have written this book to open the understanding of both men and women to their created differences, and how these differences impact their lives sexually. This book was written as a weapon against male sexual impurity. When I personally fought this battle, there were no books to be found on the topic. Even now, there are few books in the Christian arena on sexual impurity, and those that exist generally have little more than a single chapter devoted to “getting free”. Every Man’s Battle devotes at least 7 chapters to the practical details necessary for total and lasting victory.

You’ve read enough books and heard enough sermons telling you to (1) admit your sin, (2) repent of your sin, and (3) pray. You’ve admitted, repented and prayed countless times, yet remained stuck in the same quagmire, just as I did. You need more. This book offers more.

You see, sexual sin is not just a spiritual problem. It is a physical one as well, and the Bible confirms this by claiming that sexual sin is a sin against your own body. So, your battle must be fought on both a spiritual and physical level. Admitting, repenting and praying take care of the spiritual aspects of the battle, but do not fully address the intense warfare between the flesh and the spirit, nor the sexual habits rooted so deeply in your mind and flesh. Every Man’s Battle approaches the problem on both levels, allowing freedom to come quickly.

Women, you’ll find this book shocking. Men are wired so differently sexually that you’ll find it hard to believe. My own wife recently said, “Sometimes it still seems like this is all made up, like all you men have gotten together and decided that if you all stick to the same story, the women will have to believe you and will have to give you what you want. It is all so different from my experience that it seems like this must be some big conspiracy to fake us out.” Well, it is not a conspiracy. It is true. The women’s section includes many other honest comments from my wife and other women that help you process what you learn.

While I didn’t originally plan a women’s section, early readers have been grateful. And, men have been so pleased with how the book describes the male “sexual wiring” that they are insisting that their wives read the book as well, hoping that the full understanding brings full intimacy for both of them.

Men, Steve and I tell our stories of our own bondage in Chapter One, and spend the rest of the book sharing the details of our escape. May you read this book, and then begin sharing the story of your own escape. God bless you as you fight!

Oh men of God  no longer do you have to hide in your sin cave, come out and stand strong. Women of God embrace your man, if you are dealing with this issue in your home get this book read it together and stand together against the enemy.  Many women among you are on your second or even third marriage because of sexual sin. Perhaps it was him who committed adultery, or perhaps it was you, one or both of you could truly forgive the other that is why you ended up divorced.  It is and was a sin, that should not be taken lightly as the world wants us to take. " I did it so get over it, or divorce me",  " I said I'm sorry what more do you want me to do",  "If you truly love me you will forgive me".  " You were not giving me any attention, He or she noticed me and made me feel special"  The saying once a cheater always a cheater, the world again telling you that once you start you can't stop.  Its a lie, time to put the curse to death, men and women if you guilty of adultery accept that you sinned, don't take that sin lightly because it kills the spouse you promised to love and protect and honor. You failed but life is not over yet, accepting true responsibility for your sin is the first step, accepting God's forgiveness. Ensure the other party or your mate has or will forgive you. If the relationship is one you can fight for, then fight for it fix it and give God the glory for only he can restore that which the enemy has sought to destroy.

Lord let us realize that the world view of sexual sin, is that if it feels good its okay and it not your fault you made a mistake. That is a lie if you committed adultery it is your fault and you must accept and admit it yourself to God and your the other party, Perhaps you got a divorce and the other person moved on, but still clean your account with them let them know you admit your wrong doing .  Tell the enemy never again and draw near to the Lord.  Men of God, do not buy into the lie that its your wife's fault that she has no interest in sex anymore. Help her revive it, for god sakes man do the dishes sometimes take out the trash remove all the obstacles send the kids to a friends, send out to get her hair done, buy her a new dress,  get her a special something for the bed room :). Its time you court your wife again, stop her feeling like she is just a pack mule or the maid.  Let her know she is just as sexy as the day you decided you wanted her.

Oh grant us he strength to stand up as men and women of God and rebuke he devil and he will flee. Gather about out you 2 or 3 brothers  to lean on. As most of you know I up late at night so if you need me just call me. I want lie to you and say I can make it all better but I will stand with you in the gap and pray for you and with you.  Your not alone, that is the lie of the Lucifer, God is with you always.