There he went into a cave and spent the night. And the word of the LORD came to him: "What are you doing here, Elijah?" Elijah was hiding in a cave, fearful, discouraged, and confused. Yet he was just a man, like you and I. Just like Elijah, our real problem is not the problems we face -- but our focus. We can focus on our sin nature, or we can focus on God's ability and abundant provision. Are you hiding in a " sin cave" today, afraid to venture forth. What are you doing?! Get out of your "cave!" God is on your side. The Greater One is in you. The Lord is your helper. He has promised to never leave you or forsake you. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

Oh men Of God rise up and take back your position as the Head and not the tail. LIke Lazarus its time oh men and women of God we come out of our sin caves. No longer do we have to hide in darkness or believe the lies of the enemy. We can not serve to master's your flesh and God. Let us die to our flesh and live to the Lord God.

Have you ever pondered, why is it that the scripture makes mention of Sexual sin so many different times in the word of God? Sexual sin is not like tobacco – where it harms your body and costs so much money. Sexual sin is not like alcohol – where it makes you loose control of your mind and tears up your liver. Sexual sin can be kept quiet, so no one even knows about it – it’s not hurting anybody!
Have you ever had these thoughts? To me, if the scripture mentions something once, it’s important. Think of all the times the Bible warns against sexual sin.
Obviously, it’s VERY important to understand the critical nature of sexual sin and self-control in this area. To gain control of your body and live in holiness and honor. Without control in this area, I’ve seen otherwise upright Christian men continue to flounder where they were at, not gaining any ground, but growing weaker because they refuse to do something about it. It has been compared to heroin addiction because the body’s need for ejaculation becomes like the need for a ‘hit’. Sexual sin has ruined marriages and relationships of otherwise strong Christian men – and I would theorize that it is because of the secrecy and prolific nature of sexual temptation around us. WHEN was the last time our media told us the truth about sexual sin? No one on TV pays the price of illicit sex. No one on video gets hurt, blown apart at heart or devastated when they casually throw away their future with their virginity. MTV plugs sexual songs, cultivates sexual situations, pushes you into "safe sex". Then it offers the almighty cure: use a condom. True lies. "Sex cures loneliness. Sex makes you feel good about yourself. Sex makes you happy. Sex is like a box of chocolates."
In the movies everybody is pretty, everybody looks good, everybody has great sex with anybody, anytime with no consequence. Pretty Women marry millionaires. (There's no sequel, because the marriage only lasts as long as the credits.) On screen, the famous "sexually active" athlete always gets the girl and he lives happily ever after. In real life he can go to jail for rape or murder, or loose his marriage. Somewhere deep in our souls we know what God says is true: "Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body." God says sexual sin is like nothing else in the book. It can hurt you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It can screw up your life in ways you would never have dreamed.

1 Thessalonians 4

Living to Please God

¹ Finally then, brethren, we urge and exhort in the Lord Jesus that you should abound more and more, just as you received from us how you ought to walk and to please God; ² for you know what commandments we gave you through the Lord Jesus.
³ For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; ⁴ that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, ⁵ not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God

Sexual sin produces consequences that will affect us deeply. Viewing porn is a form of sex sin committed through lust and idolatry. If you are looking at pornography, you are susceptible to the same consequences that result from other forms of sexual sin.
Whether you have already sinned, or are thinking about doing so, the point here is to encourage you not to sin.  Here are some examples of the consequences of sex sin:
  Sexual sin is unique in that we commit it against our own bodies (1 Corinthians 6:17).  Our bodies function as temples of God's Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:12-20).   When we use our body for sex sin, we dishonor our body and defile God's temple.   We're also defiling the people that we are sinning with.   Our lack of respect for the body (and for God) damages our relationship with God.
  The more we quench God's Spirit, the less we will be inclined to live a changed life in righteousness.
   The more we give in to our sexual sin , the more they enslave us we become addicts. Paul described this as slavery to sin in Romans 6:16. Sexual sin is particularly powerful, since it involve our body, and its purpose is to destroy our soul and spiritual relationship with our heavenly Father, and our spouse Thankfully, Jesus provided the means for us to break out of any stronghold and live for God in righteousness.
  Sex sin gives the enemy a foot hold in your life and a right to ensnare us and enslave us to our sexual lust and desires.    Promiscuity, adultery, divorce, infertility, all the effects of sexual sin being allowed to take hold in our lives.
Sexual sin can give evil spirits footholds to influence your life.  Romans 1:28-32 provides a vivid account of how sexual promiscuity and idolatry opened the door to many other forms of evil .  Perhaps the most famous is David's sin with Bathsheba. His adultery with Bathsheba and murder of her husband produced family strife, the death of his son and opportunities for enemies to blaspheme God (2 Samuel 11-12).
  Spiritual confusion begins when we start pursuing the pleasures of sin and disregard ourconscience of right and wrong. The more we pursue sin, the more our conscience becomes dulled (1 Timothy 4:2, Titus 1:15). A dull conscience causes us to be susceptible to enemy's lies which will draw us progressively further from God (James 1:14). Eventually we may not even think our actions are sinful and our ability to repent can be hindered (Hebrews 6:1-8).  Two examples of sex-related spiritual confusion are found in Romans and 1 Kings. The people in Romans 1:24-32 sinned through sexual immorality and idolatry and were filled with all kinds of evil.   1 Kings 11 illustrates how Solomon, the wisest person that ever lived, descended into spiritual confusion through sexual idolatry with his pagan wives.
  Sex creates emotional bonds ("soul ties") with our sex partner. These bonds will vary in strength depending on the relationship. God intended this emotional bond for marriage partners. When we bond with people other than our spouse through sex, emotional confusion results.   This confusion can manifest in many ways.  Here are some examples:

Recurring dreams and/or thoughts about former lovers
Inability to achieve emotional intimacy with spouse
Regret or bitterness toward people who hurt us in past relationships
Comparing our spouse with former lovers in sexual performance
Distorted understanding of true love (corrupted by lust or other selfishness)
Increased promiscuity, in attempt to find true intimacy and love

The danger of emotional confusion is that it can hold us back from experiencing true intimacy with our spouse and God. Emotional confusion can also act like a curse, fueling sex addiction and other struggles we may be having.
Sex memories are created in our brains with the help of special hormones released during sexual arousal. The devil uses these memories to condemn us and keep us in bondage to lust. These memories can cause difficulties in our sexual relationship with our spouse. Here are some examples:

Our sexual experiences with our spouse are corrupted by thoughts of our former lovers or porn images we've viewed
We idolize past sexual partners...especially when we run into difficulties in our marriage
We feel less satisfied with our spouse's sexual performance
Our minds are conditioned to gratify our lusts through sex instead of showing true love and affection
We get angry and resentful when our spouse won't help us relive past sexual experiences or perform sex acts we've seen in porn

Adultery destroys marriages and families. The husband and the wife will suffer emotional, spiritual and even physical damage when the bond of fidelity is broken.
Lord it is my prayer that each man and woman will cleave to his or her husband, that we will
pray with our spouse read the word of God together and draw near to the Lord your God. Find yourself 2 or 3 men if your a man who are strong in the word of God to hold you accountable. Join me in reading "Every Day for Every Man" a daily devotional for men.

Sisters I encourage you to read the following books to strengthen yourself so that you do not allow yourself to be over taken by the enemy .

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Every woman's battle
Sexually Confident Wife
Completely His series

For young females

Every Young Woman's Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World

For young men

Every young man's battle