Forgiveness is not for the other person

                     


 "And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses."
 "But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses." (MARK 11:25-26 ).

Your spouse cheated on you, you were abusedYou must forgive others. No matter what they have done. Maybe your parents or family members hurt you as child. Maybe even someone from the church hurt you ,what do you do??? Get revenge? Carry the burden? God ask you and I to forgive those who harmed us. Forgiveness is not for other people but for your benefit. To not forgive hurts you both physical and emotionally, you can end up with high blood pressure, stress, depression etc. Refusing to forgive is like swallowing poison daily. It will destroy you. Jesus said we should forgive when we stand praying. So we don't have to wait until people apologize. Nor does forgiveness require a long time. Forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a decision to quit holding something against someone. When we forgive people we must release them and forget it. You may think it is impossible to forgive someone who has hurt you. With God it is possible. He never asks us to do anything that we can not do, plus Jesus is with us always and  If we bring it to the cross and lay it at his feet.