Forgiving

"And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may
also forgive you your trespasses.  "But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses." (MARK 11:25-26 )
You must forgive others, how does that make you feel to be told this by Christ and your pastor and other brothers and sisters? No matter what they have done to us, yes I know you have been hurt deeply by someone you trusted and that pain does not go away. Forgiving them simply takes the burden from you and places it on them. One things that counselors have concluded is that those that have harmed you whether it be  physical pain or emotional pain, the only person that seemly cares the pain is you! By you forgiving them you no longer have to carry the pain with you. So give it back to them by forgiving them and let them deal with what they did to you.  After all it is the command of your Heavenly Father. But it was given for our benefit.
To not forgive hurts you. Refusing to forgive is like swallowing poison daily. It will destroy you. The Messiah said we should forgive when we stand praying. So we don't have to wait until people apologize. Nor does forgiveness
require a long time. Forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a decision to quit holding something against someone. When we forgive people we must release them and forget it. You may think it is impossible to forgive someone who has
deeply wronged you. With God it is possible. He never asks us to do something we cannot do.